“וְאֵ֙לֶּה֙ הַמִּשְׁפָּטִ֔ים אֲשֶׁ֥ר תָּשִׂ֖ים לִפְנֵיהֶֽם׃
These are the laws that you shall set before them:”
(Exodus 21:1)
Jews are allowed by Torah law to mediate their disputes with other Jews, or else summon their adversary to a halachic Beit Din, but they are not allowed to litigate their monetary or divorce disputes with other Jews in civil courts.
If a feminist tells you that Jews are required to litigate divorce disputes in family court in the US, that is most likely a lie.
I’m not an attorney, but my understanding is that family courts in the US will allow spouses to submit divorce settlements that were mediated or adjudicated in a Beit Din for confirmation by the court, as long as neither party is litigating against the other party.
This is known as “alternative dispute resolution” and my understanding is that it is actually encouraged by US courts.
A Jewish husband is not required to appear before any Beit Din if his wife is litigating against him in family court in violation of halacha.
In my opinion, “rabbis” who support women who are litigating their divorces in family courts are not “rabbis”, they are feminist politicians.
Contrary to the constant barrages of agunah feminist propaganda, if a man or woman is litigating in family court in violation of halacha, they are NOT an “agun” or “agunah” and halacha actually prohibits assisting them.